One of the most freeing—and difficult—spiritual practices is learning to release outcomes.

Much of our stress, disappointment, and discouragement doesn’t come from what is, but from what we believe should be. We create expectations around timing, results, and how life is supposed to unfold. When those expectations aren’t met, it’s easy to question whether we’re on the right path at all.

At The Well, we return to this reminder often:
Even when things don’t make sense, they can still be good.

This way of thinking is not wishful optimism—it is deeply rooted in Scripture.

Biblical Wisdom on Letting Go of Outcomes

In Philippians 4:11–13, Paul speaks openly about learning contentment in all circumstances—whether in abundance or in need. Contentment is not passive resignation; it is a practiced trust that God’s presence is sufficient regardless of outcomes.

Ecclesiastes 6:9 reminds us that it is better to accept what is before us than to chase after what we imagine life should be. When we live in constant longing for a different outcome, we lose our ability to see and receive the good already present.

Proverbs 17:22 tells us that a joyful heart is good medicine, while discouragement dries up the spirit. When we fixate on what’s wrong instead of what is good, our hearts slowly harden, making it harder to move forward with hope.

And perhaps most powerfully, Romans 8:28 reassures us that God is working all things together for good—not just the parts that make sense to us.

When we truly believe this, our posture toward life begins to shift.

How Doubt and Discouragement Take Hold

Often, what holds us back isn’t failure—it’s doubt.

Doubt that we’re on the right path.
Doubt that God is still working.
Doubt that what we’re doing matters if it doesn’t look the way we expected.

When we focus primarily on what feels wrong, discouragement takes root. We replay old stories, dwell on missed opportunities, and remain stuck in the past. But when our focus narrows to truth—to God’s faithfulness rather than our fear—we stay aligned with His work.

And His work becomes our work.

A Personal Reflection on Releasing Control

Like many people who start a heart-centered business, I opened The Well because I deeply believe in what I offer. I have experienced healing through these practices, and I have witnessed it in my clients. I’ve tried to remove barriers—lowering cost, offering free videos, and creating accessible entry points.

And yet, one of the hardest lessons has been this:
I cannot control who shows up.

It’s tempting to focus on who isn’t coming—especially when it’s people close to us. But the invitation is always the same: pay attention to who is in front of you right now, even if it is just one person.

Trust God.
Trust timing.
Trust the other person’s journey.

When and if they are ready, they will come.

Nonviolence, Trust, and Letting Others Be

This principle is echoed in the yogic teaching of nonviolence (ahimsa).

Nonviolence asks us to trust the highest image someone holds of themselves—not the image we project onto them. It teaches us that transformation cannot be forced, fixed, or rushed. Our role is to model, invite, and remain grounded in truth.

Worry, at its core, is a lack of trust—both in God and in others. When we release worry, we loosen our grip on outcomes and create space for growth that unfolds in its own time.

Moving Forward Without Clinging

Releasing outcomes doesn’t mean we stop caring.
It means we stop clinging.

We stop measuring our worth by results.
We stop replaying stories of what could have been.
We stop allowing disappointment to harden our hearts or keep us stuck.

Instead, we choose presence and trust. We learn to bring our expectations, timelines, and unanswered questions to God in prayer—not to demand clarity, but to release control. Prayer becomes the place where we loosen our grip and realign our hearts with truth.

When we pray, we remind ourselves that God is working even when we cannot see it. We shift our focus from what feels wrong to what is good and faithful. And with softened hearts and open hands, we are able to move forward—grounded not in outcomes, but in trust.

An Invitation: Spring Reset Workshop

If you find yourself feeling stuck, discouraged, or weighed down by expectations, this season may be inviting you to reset.

This spring, we will once again offer our Spring Reset Workshop at The Well. This experience is designed to help you:

• Release emotional and physical tension

• Recenter your focus on what truly matters

• Reconnect with God, your body, and your sense of direction

• Practice letting go of outcomes and returning to trust

This is not about fixing yourself.
It is about creating space for clarity, peace, and renewal.

If your heart has been longing for a reset, this may be your next gentle step.